What is consent?

Want to Have Good Sex? Use your lips. Ask for consent.

• Do you want to… ?
• I want you to touch me all over. What do you want?
• Does this feel good? What would make it feel better?
• Sex? Want to?
• Do you want to take it slower?
• How can I please you?

If someone’s making you hot and bothered and you want to get intimate, ask them if they want to!  When you ask, be sure the person gives you a yes (or better yet, yes please!) before things go further.

Consent means getting that yes in words and actions! Want to go further? Want to do something different? Make sure it’s OK with them. Does something seem wrong in the moment? Stop and ask.

One night stand or life partner: reciprocation and consent are the keys to good (or great!) sex!

In college, sex and alcohol often go together. If someone’s trashed they may not be able to give consent. But after how many drinks is someone drunk? It varies from person to person.

If your partner has been drinking, be sure more communication takes place rather than less. If you think they might be too drunk, make plans for another time. It won’t be your only chance to hook up.

Consent legally means that both/all partners are actively agreeing to engage in sexual contact. Consent requires that the giver of consent is fully conscious, awake, and sober enough to know exactly what is going on.

If you ask someone to have sex, they have to be able to freely say yes or freely say no.  If anything prevents them from expressing themselves freely, like the threat of consequences or physical inability, they can’t give consent.

Not saying “no” or being silent Does Not equal consent. Consent to one activity does not equal consent for another. So, for instance, a person’s consent to oral sex does not imply consent for sexual intercourse.

Questions? Want to learn more?

Call Community Health at 303-492-2937 or e-mail us at Healthbuffs@colorado.edu

or contact the Gender Violence Prevention and Education Coordinator at 303-492-5951.